Admittedly, Tuesday was a bit of a worrying day. I had several appointments to sort things out for my parents’ estates, and I was concerned that I do everything correctly. As Executrix, I feel a huge responsibility to dot all the ‘i’s” and cross all the ‘t’s’, not just to protect the estate, but also to handle my parents’ affairs as I know they would want them to be handled - honourably and with dignity. Thankfully I have some wonderful people helping me, from a super accountant to a lovely lady at the bank, who made everything incredibly easy. By close of play Tuesday all the forms were filled out and the taxes were paid. There is little else left to do now, and that is a huge relief to me.
This meant that we could have a bit of fun on Tuesday night, meeting up with a lovely old friend (in terms of the time I have known her, not her age!!) and her family for dinner. It was wonderful to see with them and we thoroughly enjoyed the evening.
Because everything went so well yesterday, there was little else to do in terms of work today, so we were able to have a bit of a wander round. We drove back past the houses I grew up in, past all the schools I went to and past lots of places full of memories. It was sad, but nice to remember my parents and the good times we had with them. Their absence is palpable. It must be so hard to live where you grew up as you would experience this sort of thing every day. For me, it is just when I visit. Of course there are places in England full of memories of my parents, but here I feel utterly surrounded by them.
Then we went to my Uncle’s house for a visit which we really enjoyed. It was great to catch up with him. My cousin and her husband took time out of their day to join us which we really appreciated. My cousin owns two wonderful lingerie shops, one in Kitchener and one in Guelph. They are called Vicanie’s and if you are ever nearby they are worth a visit! My Uncle owns the house my Grandfather used to live in, so it is really interesting visiting somewhere that I went so often as a child. He has a wonderful dog named Chico, who is huge but an absolute baby, so affectionate and cuddly. We had a great time visiting.
Then we went for a walk in Victoria Park, where we walked so often with my parents. It’s full of memories from when the 21st Century Teenager was little and also from my own childhood, when my Mom used to take me skating on the lake which freezes every year. When I turned to look back up at the balcony of the apartment where my parents used to live across from the park, it was all I could do not to wave. When he got too ill to walk in the park, Dad used to look out for us walking from there and he’d always give us a wave.
At suppertime we met up with another wonderful old friend (again, not in terms of her age!) and her family. We had another super visit over dinner. It was wonderful to see them.
So it is turning out to be a much more relaxing visit than I had envisaged. I was worried that but for a few little highlights, this visit was going to be very stressful, but that has not been the case at all. I am thrilled we are managing to catch up with so many people. I’m also touched that people are going to such trouble to fit in visits with us when we are only here for such a short time. Everybody is busy these days and it really is lovely when they make such an effort to see you!
I have to admit that it does seem like everything has changed - but I guess it is like Benjamin Button says in the film “The Curious Case of Benjamin Button” - “It’s a funny thing coming home. Nothing changes. Everything looks the same, feels the same, even smells the same. You realize what’s changed, is you.”
Tomorrow we head off to Sarnia to visit with my cousin and her family, something we are really looking forward to.